Who are haters?
Haters are the people who write unmotivated offensive and aggressive comments, posts and messages on social networks. Aggression can be directed towards both individuals and groups of people.
Currently, there is no clear consensus on the definition of "haters". As with many emerging phenomena, the term was coined by individuals who encountered negative feedback on the internet. The term "hater" is derived from a pre-existing word, which generally refers to an individual who harbors intense dislike for someone or something. While people who express their aversion towards others or things have existed outside of the online world, it is on the internet where such hatred has reached new levels.
Meri
Meri A. lives in Yerevan. when her friend committed suicide, she became the target of online hate on social media. Here is her story.
I couldn't get used to the idea that he was gone. And the comments under my and his posts are doubly painful to me… He was different from the other guys. Arsen was 16 years old, he was under a bad influence, as his mother and I had suspected. We tried to help him, apparently in vain. He loved his friend Tigran, but none of his relatives could accept their relationship.
Before they committed suicide, they published couple photos. Arsen wrote: "We made decisions about all our joint actions together." After their passing, people left hurtful comments under the post. They wished for them to "burn in hell", cursed everyone who tried to protect the guys. I couldn't read all these nasty things, I was disgusted and scared.
I wrote a support post on my page. I was his friend, I loved him like a little brother. I could not allow these "evil tongues" to desecrate the memory of Arsen. Hate also showered in my direction. "Don't defend these gays", "if you justify them, then you also go to hell" - I heard all this in my address. There were worse words, but I don't want to talk about it.
I had to delete my page to get rid of the stress and negativity that I was getting every second. I am currently trying to recover psychologically from the hate I received on social media. The most terrible thing is realizing that people don't care about your age, gender, or feelings; they will offend you without a second thought. What's worse, they can do so with impunity.
I couldn't get used to the idea that he was gone. And the comments under my and his posts are doubly painful to me… He was different from the other guys. Arsen was 16 years old, he was under a bad influence, as his mother and I had suspected. We tried to help him, apparently in vain. He loved his friend Tigran, but none of his relatives could accept their relationship.
Before they committed suicide, they published couple photos. Arsen wrote: "We made decisions about all our joint actions together." After their passing, people left hurtful comments under the post. They wished for them to "burn in hell", cursed everyone who tried to protect the guys. I couldn't read all these nasty things, I was disgusted and scared.
I wrote a support post on my page. I was his friend, I loved him like a little brother. I could not allow these "evil tongues" to desecrate the memory of Arsen. Hate also showered in my direction. "Don't defend these gays", "if you justify them, then you also go to hell" - I heard all this in my address. There were worse words, but I don't want to talk about it.
I had to delete my page to get rid of the stress and negativity that I was getting every second. I am currently trying to recover psychologically from the hate I received on social media. The most terrible thing is realizing that people don't care about your age, gender, or feelings; they will offend you without a second thought. What's worse, they can do so with impunity.
Reasons for hate
- Delayed or failed growing up
A person realizes that he did not take place as an adult, and begins to take out annoyance on others.
- Expression of your inferiority complex
A person who is dissatisfied with one or another aspect of his appearance, flipping through beautiful shots, buries himself even more in his complexes. Comparing the reflection in the mirror and what he sees on the phone screen, he feels deeply annoyed. Often it turns into aggression towards "perfection" from the picture.
- Lack of empathy
- Boredom
Aruzhan
More than a year ago, the girl faced a wave of hate on a social network after publishing, as it seemed to many at the time, rather inappropriate post.
It happened during the "Bloody January", the events of those days did not leave anyone indifferent. So, I was offered to work on the set as a model in support of the victims for our Almaty and the whole of Kazakhstan. The idea was that I should be wearing clothes of our manufacturers against the background of pictures of a burning city.
We made these shots and published them by the whole film crew literally the next day.
Everyone did it, everyone on their own page. After I posted the photo they began to leave angry comments and to write that it was wrong in personal messages. Everyone shamed me and said that I was trying to become more popular when people were suffering and dying. Then I didn't understand all this turmoil, I saw large coverage and didn't really think about it. Am I ashamed now? …
It happened during the "Bloody January", the events of those days did not leave anyone indifferent. So, I was offered to work on the set as a model in support of the victims for our Almaty and the whole of Kazakhstan. The idea was that I should be wearing clothes of our manufacturers against the background of pictures of a burning city.
We made these shots and published them by the whole film crew literally the next day.
Everyone did it, everyone on their own page. After I posted the photo they began to leave angry comments and to write that it was wrong in personal messages. Everyone shamed me and said that I was trying to become more popular when people were suffering and dying. Then I didn't understand all this turmoil, I saw large coverage and didn't really think about it. Am I ashamed now? …
What are the subspecies of haters ?
Psychologist Anahit Sargsyan believes that haters are deeply unhappy people who are angry at the whole world.
Anahit splits the haters into several subspecies:
1) The truth-teller
The truth-teller does not try to be delicate, on the contrary, he is in a hurry to convey his condemnation to the addressee. As a rule, in real life, a truth-teller turns out to be a gray, downtrodden person who would never dare to behave like this in real life.
2) "Troll"
It is especially important for trolls to get an emotional response either from the owner of the page or from his subscribers.
3) Adviser
He is an unsolicited adviser who knows exactly how to work, build a personal life and raise children. Unlike a truth-teller, such a person goes beyond voicing his observations. He considers it his mission to share advice and wisdom with those who, in his opinion, live "wrong". Such people often present their advice in a pseudo-friendly form.
Anahit splits the haters into several subspecies:
1) The truth-teller
The truth-teller does not try to be delicate, on the contrary, he is in a hurry to convey his condemnation to the addressee. As a rule, in real life, a truth-teller turns out to be a gray, downtrodden person who would never dare to behave like this in real life.
2) "Troll"
It is especially important for trolls to get an emotional response either from the owner of the page or from his subscribers.
3) Adviser
He is an unsolicited adviser who knows exactly how to work, build a personal life and raise children. Unlike a truth-teller, such a person goes beyond voicing his observations. He considers it his mission to share advice and wisdom with those who, in his opinion, live "wrong". Such people often present their advice in a pseudo-friendly form.
How to put hater in his place
Disclaimer: remember, hater is an unhappy and traumatized person.
1. If you feel that you don't want to communicate with a certain person, then stop doing it. Stop interacting with him. Start small and just stop responding to this person. There is no need to feed the haters with your energy.
2. Remember that not liking someone is completely normal. Do not be afraid to defend personal boundaries and "cross the line" in a conversation with hater. Yes, it is important to remain a cultured and well-mannered person, but no one should use this against you.
3. And the last. If they put pressure on you and hurt you, then block haters on social networks. Your mental health is above all!
Disclaimer: remember, hater is an unhappy and traumatized person.
1. If you feel that you don't want to communicate with a certain person, then stop doing it. Stop interacting with him. Start small and just stop responding to this person. There is no need to feed the haters with your energy.
2. Remember that not liking someone is completely normal. Do not be afraid to defend personal boundaries and "cross the line" in a conversation with hater. Yes, it is important to remain a cultured and well-mannered person, but no one should use this against you.
3. And the last. If they put pressure on you and hurt you, then block haters on social networks. Your mental health is above all!
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Bild von Hatice EROL auf Pixabay
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Bild von Hatice EROL auf Pixabay
